Last night with my husband's family we got into a discussion about baby #3. In retrospect, addressing when or if we are going to have baby #3 in front of others was probably a REALLY bad idea to begin with. But it happened. (posting about it may be an even worse idea, but I digress...)
So, those that know me know that I have baby on the brain. My partner, husband and father to my children says that he is exhausted. Just doesn't have it in him. No way. We'll see.
Anyway, his 93 (she must have read this) year old grandmother was at the table. She asked me if I intended to stay home if I had another baby. I promptly answered 'NO'. I would take a maternity leave and then go back part time. She then let me know that "I can't have it all". Oh really?! ? REALLY?
Obviously I was mad. I am mad. I am banging on my keys mad right now. I want to scream this: "YOU couldn't have it all. YOU had to stay home and raise YOUR family while your husband worked. YOU had to cook dinner every night and greet him with a smile and a clean house. And YOU were supposed to love every stinking minute of it."
But I have choices. I can work. I can stay at home. I can work sometimes and stay at home sometimes. I can take time for myself. I can make a good living and ask my husband to share some of the parenting responsiblities. I can be a good mother AND a good doctor. And these things are not just affirmations, they are the truth. MY truth.
So, don't tell me I can't have it all. Because I may just have to prove you wrong.
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