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Wednesday, February 24, 2010

What is your job as a parent?


We have many jobs as parents.    We are teachers.  We are cooks.  We are chauffeurs.  We are playmates.  We are housekeepers.  We are (sometimes) friends.  But we are parents.  And I believe that we have one job.

Simply put, our one job is to foster our child's self esteem.

How can we do this?

I can answer this one.  I hope for my child what every parent hopes.  I hope they are fulfilled.  I hope they are loved and give love.  I hope they are happy.  I hope they are productive members of society and feel the value of achievement.  I hope they make a mark in their little world.

I spend most of my days hoping for different things.  Smaller things.  I hope my Reagan gets dressed without demanding tights and a dress.  I hope the struggle to get Whitney's boots on only takes 2 minutes and does not end in injury.  I hope both of my children eat the first meal I put in front of them.  I hope we don't run out of chocolate milk AGAIN.

But this blog allows me to think about what I really want for my children.  So instead, I will hope for things that will contribute to their self esteem.

  • I hope that I won't yell.  Even if they deserve it.  And I will never hit.
  • I hope I am patient.  My job is to teach them calmly, deliberately and redirect bad behaviors.
  • I hope that I tell them every day how much they mean to me.  Because they are my world.
  • I hope to teach them that they don't have to be perfect to feel good about themselves.
  • I hope to show them how awesome it feels to be a smart and educated girl/woman with a strong head on her shoulders.
  • I hope to help them feel good about their bodies by being a good role model for them.  (I have to do a lot of work for this one!)
  • I hope that they know that family means unconditional love.  Period.
  • I hope to show them that a happy marriage makes 2 people greater than the sum of their parts.
  • I hope that on my journey to find happiness they can see what it is like to enjoy being in the moment.

I hope I can do this.


zeesie said...

Nothing wrong with yelling and hitting. Look at what a wonderful man your husband became. I will however take credit for the chocolate milk passion and the restaurant behavior criteria. Secret is BLEND, take the good stuff from each side and stir and mix to get the perfect recipe for rearing your children.

lilkimbo said...

I'm sure you can do all of these things!

And I agree, raising kids with self-esteem (especially girls, in my opinion) is so difficult and is such an important part of being a parent.

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